Start with what's happening, not with a label.
Most people don't arrive thinking "I have an attachment pattern." They arrive thinking "we had the same fight again" or "I don't know what I'm doing with my life." Here's how I think about what people bring.
Relationships & Connection
For couples, and for anyone repeating a pattern in their relationships.
- You might notice"We keep having the same fight." "We're more like roommates." "I reach out and my partner pulls away."
- What's often underneathThe topic is rarely the real issue. Usually it's a cycle: one person protests, the other withdraws, and both feel alone.
- How I can helpInformed by Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman approaches, we slow the conversation down and look at the feelings and needs underneath. I'm still deepening this training and don't claim certification in either method.
You can come as a couple or on your own. Read about couples therapy, including how insurance does and doesn't apply.
Life Transitions & Personal Growth
Especially for adults in their thirties and forties.
- You might notice"It looks fine from the outside." "I thought I'd have more figured out by now." A career, relationship, move, or loss you keep circling.
- What's often underneathFeeling stuck is often a signal that the life you built no longer matches who you are or what you value.
- How I can helpWe sort out what's really yours from what you inherited or assumed, using practical, solution-focused work alongside deeper conversation.
Faith & Emotional Life
Any faith background, or none.
- You might notice"I want a therapist who won't flinch when I mention my faith." Guilt that doesn't match what happened. Questions you're afraid to say out loud.
- What's often underneathFor many people, faith shapes how they see marriage, forgiveness, and worth. Therapy that ignores it works on a smaller version of you.
- How I can helpI'm a Christian, and I welcome people of any faith or none. Faith can be in the background, in the conversation, or in the room if you invite it, always alongside clinical care.
Anxiety & Overthinking
"I can't stop replaying it." Tension in your body, a mind that won't rest, and trouble deciding because every option has a downside.
We look at what the worry is protecting you from and build practical tools using cognitive behavioral and solution-focused approaches. We also work on the emotions underneath.
Emotional Wounds & Low Mood
Something from the past that still shapes how you react or how close you let people get. Or a flatness: less interest, less energy, a heaviness you can't explain.
We go at a pace that works for you. Relational, emotionally focused work is a natural fit when old experiences keep shaping current relationships. If low mood is part of the picture, we pay attention to that too, and I'm glad to coordinate with your doctor.
Read about emotional wounds. If you're having thoughts of harming yourself, please call or text 988 or call 911.
Also part of my work
- Self-criticism and self-compassion. Being kinder to yourself is a practice, and it supports almost everything else we do.
- Emotional regulation. Learning what to do when feelings run hot or shut down.
- Gambling-related struggles. My background includes gambling-related work, and I'm glad to talk about it. California also offers free, state-funded gambling treatment programs, and I can help you think about which route fits.
Not sure which of these is yours? Start by talking.
Tell me what's bringing you in, ask me anything about faith, insurance, or how I work, and we'll talk through how to get started together.
- Call707-232-5125
- Emailanabelcramton@living-abundant.com
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